It could be very frustrating if you have no sex drive and your husband is mad about it.
On one side, you do not want your husband to touch you, yet on the other side, you might feel selfish or guilty for not being able to satisfy your husband.
In this article, I have listed down a few things which you can do to adjust your sex life and improve your overall relationship again.
I have also provided my opinions on this matter, so you can have a different perspective on this matter, and understand why men made such a fuss when they do not get enough sex.
Do people get divorced due to a lack of intimacy?
Though there are many reasons why people get divorced, a lack of intimacy is often cited as a primary factor. When couples stop being intimate with one another, they stop connecting on a physical and emotional level. This can lead to feelings of alienation, resentment, and anger. And, if this continues for a long period, it could lead to a divorce.
If you’re struggling with intimacy in your marriage, it’s important to communicate with your spouse about your needs. Trying new things together can also help spice up your relationship and bring you closer together.
Why do men get mad if they don’t have intimacy?
There are a few reasons why men may react angrily when they’re not getting intimate with their partner.
For one, men often equate sex with love. So when they’re not getting physical with their partner, they may feel like they’re not being loved. This can be especially true if their partner is showing affection in other ways (like through words or touch), but isn’t following through with sex. It can leave a man feeling rejected and unimportant to his partner.
And, second, you might not feel like it but sex is a basic physiological need for a healthy man.
From men’s perspective, it is very selfish for their wives to totally avoid sex just because they simply do not have the sexual desire. This is because you cannot expect your husband to have no sexual desire too just because you do not have it. And, rejecting him time and time again, does not help him to remove the need.
And lastly, men get mad at it because they are married and they can’t do it with someone else, and yet, the only person who can fulfill their needs is totally ignoring them despite they have conveyed the message clearly. And, for them, they are not asking too much as it is a normal physiological need for healthy men.
All of these wrapped up why men can get so mad when you ignore their sexual needs.
Is he to be blamed for wanting sex?
I have seen some women who even put the blame on their husbands for wanting sex. They want to have a “platonic” relationship with their husband and think that their husband should just masturbate to fulfill their need themselves.
If you have the same thoughts, then you should talk about it before marriage. But, if you didn’t, then I would say it is really not your husband’s fault to ask for sex because it is a normal physiological need of a healthy man.
This situation is just like deciding whether both of you should go for dinner or not. You are not hungry, so you decided not to go for dinner tonight, but your husband still needs to eat, correct? Just because you do not have the appetite, and think that it is waste of time for you to go to the restaurant, it does not give you the ultimate right to ask your husband to starve, correct? If you continue to suppress him and ignore his needs, you will either have a sad husband or a happy husband who gets his empty stomach filled elsewhere.
In conclusion, your husband is not to be blamed if he is asking for sex, as long as it is not too much. The study has shown that sex per week makes a happy couple.
Why Do I Have No urge for intimacy?
It’s not uncommon for people to lose interest in sex or intimacy at some point in their lives. There are many possible reasons why someone may no longer feel the urge for intimacy, and it’s often a complex combination of factors.
Sometimes, low libido or a lack of sexual desire is due to physical causes such as hormone imbalances, certain medical conditions, or medications. In other cases, it may be the result of psychological factors such as anxiety, stress, or depression. It’s also common for relationship problems to contribute to a loss of interest in sex.
If you’re struggling with a lack of sexual desire, it can be helpful to talk to a doctor or therapist who can help you identify the underlying causes and develop a plan for addressing them.
What do to when you have no sex drive and your husband is mad
When you have no urge for intimacy, it’s important to communicate with your husband. He may be feeling frustrated, hurt, or even rejected. It’s important to try to understand his perspective and figure out what’s causing the disconnect.
Here are six things you can do if no sex drive is ruining your relationship:
1) Visit a Therapist or counselor
When it comes to lack of intimacy, many couples find themselves in a difficult situation. Often, one partner is seeking more physical affection than the other, which can lead to feelings of rejection and resentment. If you’re struggling to maintain intimacy in your relationship, it may be time to seek help from a therapist or counselor.
A therapist can help you explore the root cause of your lack of intimacy and identify any underlying issues that may be contributing to the problem. They can also provide guidance on how to communicate more effectively with your partner and resolve any conflict that may be preventing you from being physically intimate.
If you’re not sure whether therapy is right for you, consider talking to a counselor about your concerns. They can provide support and advice on how to improve your relationship without needing to see a therapist.
2) Get a medical checkup
It’s important to get a medical checkup if you’re experiencing a lack of intimacy with your partner. There could be an underlying health issue causing the problem. For example, low estrogen levels can lead to a decrease in libido. If you’re concerned about your sexual health, it’s important to see a doctor to rule out any potential medical causes.
3) Talk about your feelings openly and honestly
When it comes to intimacy, many couples find it difficult to talk about their needs and desires. This can be a touchy subject for some, but it’s important to communicate with your partner if you’re not happy with the level of intimacy in your relationship.
If you’re afraid to talk about your feelings, start by opening up about something small. From there, you can begin to share more with your partner. It’s important to remember that communication is a two-way street. So, be sure to listen to your partner as well and try to understand their perspective.
You should never ever just outright ignore your husband’s needs. Instead, you should discuss with him what and how he can help you to increase your sexual desire and have a better time in bed together. It helps to remove his trigger to be mad if he can at least see that you are putting in the effort to understand him and are willing to solve the relationship problem together.
4) Explore different things and see what can trigger your desire
There are many things that can trigger a person’s desire. For some, it may be physical touch, while for others it may be mental stimulation. It is important to explore different things and see what can trigger your desire.
Physical touch can be a very powerful trigger for many people. If you are someone who enjoys physical affection, then you may find that even a simple hug from your partner can increase your level of desire. If you enjoy more intimate forms of physical touch, such as kissing or sex, then these may be even more effective triggers for your desire.
Mental stimulation can also be a very powerful trigger for many people. If you are someone who enjoys intellectually stimulating conversations, then you may find that talking with your partner about something that you are both passionate about can increase your level of desire.
Other things you can try are sex toys, trying out different sex positions, doing it in different places, going for a full-body massage, or going for a short getaway to have fun together.
Again, the key here is to put in the effort to fix things instead of just totally ignoring your husband’s needs. Communicate with him what he did well, and let him know what turns you on the most when you found something that helps to enhance your sexual desire.
5) Rediscover what turns you on in the past
When it comes to intimacy, sometimes we need to rediscover what turns us on. This can be especially true if we’ve been with the same partner for a while and things have become routine. If you’re not sure where to start, think back to a time when you were really turned on. What was happening then? What were you doing? What were you thinking about? Use those memories to help fuel your fantasies now.
Of course, sometimes our fantasies can be a little different than what actually turns us on at the moment. That’s okay, too. Fantasizing about something can be just as arousing as actually doing it. If you’re stuck in a rut, explore your fantasies and see what really gets you going. You may be surprised at what you find.
6) Overcome limiting beliefs that intimacy is bad
It’s not uncommon for people to have negative beliefs about intimacy. After all, we’re often taught that sex is bad, or at least that it’s something to be ashamed of. But these beliefs can lead to problems in our intimate relationships.
If you believe that intimacy is bad, you may find yourself avoiding physical and emotional closeness with your partner. This can lead to tension and conflict in the relationship. Additionally, you may miss out on the joys and benefits of intimacy.
Fortunately, it is possible to overcome these negative beliefs about intimacy. Start by exploring what might be driving your beliefs. Are you worried about getting hurt? Do you feel like you’re not good enough? Once you identify the root of your fears, you can start to work on letting them go.
Again, getting professional help from a counselor or therapist to help you in this will be more effective than you trying to do it alone.
A word from Charismatic Persona
It’s understandable that your husband is upset. After all, sex is an important part of most marriages. But there are other ways to show intimacy besides sex.
Try cuddling or holding hands when you watch TV together, steal a kiss when you say goodbye in the morning, and send him a flirty text message during the day.
If you put in the effort to do these little things, both of you can feel more loved and it might help to increase your desire to do romantic things in bed. Last but not least, if the situation continues, it is important to seek medical advice to see if it is due to hormone imbalance or other related health issues.