Welcome to my guide on how to start a sexual conversation with a girl.
You will discover how to initiate sexual topics with the girl you like without looking desperate in this guide.
You will also get the sexual conversation starters and scripts so you know exactly what you can say.
As usual, let’s dive right into the content.
How To Start a Sexual Conversation With A Girl
If you are not the person who is comfortable talking about the sexual topic, then you need to enter the right state first.
You need to be relaxed, confident, and talk about sex like it is just another everyday conversation topic. When you make sexual topics sounds like something very familiar, the girl will also take it in the same way.
This way, when you talk about it, it won’t make you look desperate, or you are doing it deliberately.
There are a few ways you can start a sexual conversation naturally.
Method #1 Sexual Praise
You can add some sexual element into it when you praise her. Tell her which part of her is sexy.
- Oh my god, look at the butt. That’s so sexy.
- I like you, especially when you are wearing specs. It excites me.
- I love your cleavage. Mind-blowing.
- I like your sexy eyes and the way they seduce me.
It would be best if you always said it casually, make it looks like you are teasing her.
Depending on the type, most girls are happy when you tease her that way because you are indirectly telling her that she is sexually attractive.
If she is shy about it, then you should tease her more. On the other hand, if she is proud of it, ask her to turn around or come to you so that you can have a closer look at her.
Method #2 Steer A Conversation Sexually
When you have a normal conversation with her, try to catch her words and twists it into something sexual.
You can repeat after what she says and give a funny look to hint that you caught her talking dirty.
- She says, “It’s wet.”, you can then say in a funny tone, “oh, it’s wet already? I didn’t do anything yet.”
- When she says, “Do you want to come inside” and you can say, “What did you say? Do you want to cum inside?”
Again, if she is shy, then you want to tease her about that. You can say something like, “Dirty-minded, but I like it”.
If you pay enough attention during a conversation, you can always catch these keywords she used and twist it around into something dirty.
You can take advantage of her body language too.
For example, if she accidentally touches your hand, you can say, “I knew you want me. Let’s go to my bedroom. I let you touch me in any way you want.”
Try your best to twist what she says or do into something dirty.
Method #3 Discuss the sexual situation of a friend of yours.
You can talk about third party sexual issue with her. Of course, please do not give away the name of your friend when you say it.
You can tell her that you have a female friend who complains that her boyfriend can’t satisfy her during sex. Sometimes he even rejects her when she wants sex.
You can then ask her how she would deal with that situation if it were to happen to her.
Girls like a situational question. So, they are happy to discuss this with you about that.
From there, you can expand into other sexual topics easily.
Here is some sexual topic you can discuss with her:
- Your female friend complains that her boyfriend refuses to give her oral sex.
- Your female friend said she likes foreplay, but her boyfriend always skips it.
- Your female friend wants to try having sex in public places, but her boyfriend is reluctant about it.
Talking about the sexual topic will make her start imagining sex while talking to you. Plus, if you do this many times on her, she will get used to talking about sex with you.
Method #4 Play truth or dare with her
Think of a simple game, and the winner gets to ask the question.
For example, draw a card, and the one with a bigger number gets to ask the questions. Or, a rock paper scissors mini-game will do the job too.
When you win, you can ask her sexual questions with the intention to embarrass her. Then, on her turn, she will ask you sexual questions to revenge you.
This way, you both can have fun exploring each other’s sexual world.
If she refuses to answer the questions, then she will have to receive punishment. You can ask her to give you a massage, do a sexy dance for you, or act like she is trying to seduce you.
This is a fun way to talk about the sexual topic.
Method #5 Tell Her Dirty Jokes
Tell her you got some excellent dirty jokes from your friend, and you want to see if she has the wisdom to understand it.
You want to challenge her. So, she will want to prove to you that she can get the joke. Then, you can throw all the dirty jokes you know on her.
Here are a few dirty jokes:
- During a school discussion, a nun asks the children what they think God takes you by when you die. A kid responds, “I think God takes you by your feet, because once I walked into my parents’ room and my mom’s feet were in the air, and she was screaming, “Oh God, I’m coming!!!”
- A woman has a hard time getting her tomatoes to ripen, so she goes to her neighbor with her problem. The neighbor says, “All you have to do is go out at midnight and dance around in the garden naked for a few minutes, and the tomatoes will become so embarrassed, they will blush bright red.” The woman goes out at midnight and dances around her garden naked for a few minutes. The next morning, the neighbor comes over to the woman’s house and asks the woman if her tomatoes have turned red. The woman says, “No, they’re still green, but I noticed the cucumbers grew four inches!”
- A man and woman had been married for 30 years, and in those 30 years, they always left the lights off when having sex. He was embarrassed and scared that he couldn’t please her, so he always used a big dildo on her. All these years, she had no clue. One day, she decided to reach over and flip the light switch on and saw that he was using a dildo. She said, “I knew it, asshole, explain the dildo!” He said, “Explain the kids!”
- Maria went home happy, telling her mother about how she earned $20 by climbing a tree. Her mom responded, “Maria, they just wanted to see your panties!” Maria replied, “See Mom, I was smart. I took them off!”
- A few months after his parents were divorced, little Johnny passed by his mom’s bedroom and saw her rubbing her body and moaning, “I need a man, I need a man!” Over the next couple of months, he saw her doing this several times. One day, he came home from school and heard her moaning. When he peeked into her bedroom, he saw a man on top of her. Little Johnny ran into his room, took off his clothes, threw himself on his bed, started stroking himself, and moaning, “Ohh, I need a bike! I need a bike!”
- A man is lying on the beach, wearing nothing but a cap over his crotch. A woman is passing by remarks, “If you were any sort of a gentleman, you would lift your hat to a lady.” He replies, “If you were any sort of a sexy lady, the hat would lift by itself.”
How To turn a Conversation Dirty Over Text
Here are a few texts you can send to her and start the dirty talking.
- I’ve been thinking about doing naughty things to you.
- I know how to make you feel good. Do you want to try it?
- I’m trying to sleep, but I can’t stop thinking about all the things you could do to me if you were with me right now.
- You were naughty in my dream last night.
- Wanna play a game with me tonight? You will love it.
You should only send a dirty text to her after you have dated her, and she accepts you flirting with her. Otherwise, the risk is too high.
How to steer a conversation sexually | Scripts
I understand that many guys are shy about diving into sexual topics right away.
So, here are two methods you can use on any girl and start talking about sexual topics quickly.
Sexual Conversation Starter #1: love language
This is probably the best topic to initiate a sexual topic with a girl indirectly.
First, you want to get her opinion on the relationship:
- “what are the things you would consider before you start a relationship?”
- “Do you believe the difference in two-person attracts or repels each other?”
Then, ask her, “do you know there’s 5 types of love language? Dr. Gary Chapman wrote it.”
Most of the time, she won’t know about it. She will get curious and ask you what the five types of love language are.
And you can tell her:
- words of affirmation
- receiving gifts
- quality time
- physical touch
- acts of service, for example, make them breakfast and do the chores together.
Then you can say, “everyone has a different ranking for these five languages. What is your order?” Discuss with her what is her ranking, and listen attentively.
No matter what she said, you can then say, “I have discussed this with a few friends previously, and I found something very interesting.”
Pause, and she will ask you “what did you find?”
And you can say, “girls always rank receiving gifts as top 1 or 2 of love language. But, most of the time, men will rank physical touch top 1 or 2. This makes me wonder, do girls think affection or intimacy is vital in a relationship?” Then let her speak.
From this question above onwards, you can start to discuss sexual topics. You can throw all kinds of questions regarding sexual topics.
- Do you think sex and relationship can be separated?
- How do you look at sex?
- Do you think a strong sense of sexuality is healthy?
If she is open to continue the conversation about sex with you, then you can ask her the more direct questions.
At this point, you can ask her directly:
- I’m just curious, are you a sexual person?
- So, what is your favourite position?
- Do you touch yourself often?
When you talk about the sexual topic, you want to act as it is just another conversation topic, and we are all adults. Don’t be nervous about it.
Then, change to any other related to relationship topics, yet nothing to do with sex if she does not want to continue it.
Sexual Conversation Starter #2: Zodiac Signs
The other way is that you can start by discussing horoscope.
Before you meet her, you should try to find out her birthday via her social media accounts. Then, on the date, you can ask her, “what’s your zodiac sign?”
After telling you her sign, you can tell her the zodiac sign’s strengths and unique characteristics. Then you ask, “do you know Libra has unique characteristics?” You want to say it playfully as if you are about to reveal her hidden characteristics.
Wait until she asks you, “what is it?”
You can say, “well, Libra (or whatever her zodiac sign) is one of the horniest zodiac sign.”
She will laugh. And you can ask, “so, I’m curious. Do you consider yourself a sexual person?”
You can continue to discuss more sex if she is okay to discuss it.
What If She Rejects You When You Start A Sexual Conversation
If she refuses to talk about it, you do not need to apologize.
Never say something like, “I’m so sorry. It’s my bad. I should not ask this kind of question.” No, do not apologize in such away. If you do that, you will throw away your positioning.
So, when she refuses to talk about it, just say, “I discussed this with my other female friends before, and they are okay with it. I didn’t know you are conservative about this. ” Then, you can change to another topic.
Do not freak and say sorry too much. Just act like, “oh okay, you are not cool to talk about it, it’s okay. We can talk about other things. “
The Bottom Line
When you start a sexual conversation with a girl, you should be relaxed and talk about it like it is just another common topic. If you can give her the vibe that being sexual and talking about sex is no big deal, she will, most of the time, think the same way and continue the discussion with you.
Guys, I wish you all the best in starting a sexual conversation with the girl you like. Do it naturally, so she won’t know you’ve prepared for it.
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