Here’s how to make your wife horny again. First learn how to build up sexual tension, for example, send her a sexy text message to build anticipation, or whisper to her what you are going to do to her tonight. You can also touch her non-sensitive part first and then slowly move your hand to the sensitive part. Rub it for a few seconds and leave her hanging. Such teasing will make her want more from you.
Another way to make your wife horny again is by using body language, for example, you can look at her eye, and then to her lips or her private parts, and then go back to her eyes. Or, you can give her more hugs from behind, smell her neck and rub your private part at her butts a few times. All of these are subtle sexual signals you can send to make your wife hornier.
I use multiple methods to keep the spark in my own relationship. They work wonders for me, and I’m going to share all of them with you in this article.
You will discover the 4 main steps to make your wife horny and have great sex together.
Step 1: How to get your wife in the mood for intimacy
A lot of guys think that they can force their way in by intense kissing or touching the private part directly. They think this will help to arouse their partner quicker but the fact is most women need more time to transition into sexual activity compared to men.
This means that you have to learn how to become an expert in adjusting your wife’s mood, to prepare her for what’s come up next.
There are a few things you can do at this stage, and start to make your wife hornier.
Compliment her sexually
If you are not sure where to begin, you can start by complementing her hair, smelling it, and complimenting her smell turns you on. Then, you can slowly transition into more sexual compliments such as her breast being gorgeous, her pink nipples, and her firm butt. Give a genuine compliment and tells her which part of her turns you on the most.
Sexual body language
I have mentioned this earlier, but again your eye is your best weapon to send out sexual signals. Look at her eyes for a few seconds, look at how beautiful they are, and then look at her lips or her private part for 2 seconds, and then look back at her eyes. Women’s brains will pick up the subtle sexual signals and she might start looking at your private parts too.
Continue to touch her while you talk to her. Small actions like smelling her hair, playing with her fingers, to slowly hugging her are all small milestones you can aim for. You can gently touch in the way that your fingers slide through the surface of her private part, but do not stop there and start touching it intensely yet. Always keep things slow, and you want to tease her only. You can accelerate the sexual tension later if she touches you back and give you the signals she is already in the mood.
Set the ambiance right
Put out a good list of make-out music, and set the light dimmer. It’s better to change it from bright white to dimmer yellow lights. Make the temperature colder, so you can cuddle together or sit closer to share the warmth.
Do something together
You can watch movies, and Youtube clips together or just chat. The idea is for you to have more of her attention and make sure she is not doing her own things when you try to initiate this flow. Chatting is usually better than watching movie because you will get a higher engagement rate. Things you can talk about could be interesting, funny, or stupid things you have done lately, and then slowly transition the topic to things about her and let her talk about it. Talk about things that can help her to open up her heart like her aspiration, her dreams, and childhood memories. These are all great topics. Cut off boring topics like work unless she is passionate about her work.
Step 2: How to make her feel comfortable
Women will not want to have sex with you if they are in an intense or highly stressed mode. So, if they just finished their work or chores, you want to give them some space to chill and relax first. Once your girlfriend feels more comfortable, with no more work or worries occupying their mind, then the chances for you to move things to the bed will become easier.
Here are a few things you can do to help her to become more comfortable and horny.
Give her a massage
I’m not joking. Spending some time learning how to give a good massage can be very rewarding. It helps your wife to relax efficiently, and it provides you the opportunity for touching. You can massage her neck and shoulder first, and then slowly move your hand down the spine until the upper part of her butt. Then you can give her a leg massage and slowly move your hand up to her thigh. Touch her affectionately while you do so will help her to feel pampered and loved.
Express your affection
Another good way to make her feel comfortable and loved is by expressing your feelings and affection for her. You can choose to write her a simple letter, or you can just tell her how much you appreciate her. All of these are crucial because when she will feel loved and it helps her to give herself a good reason to be in bed with you. She will feel that you are not using her just for sex, but you truly love her and you want to make love to her.
Remove stress factors from her life
If you can do some of the chores and helps to take care of the kids during the day, then she won’t be too burnt out during the night and would be more likely to be in the mood to have some fun time with you in bed. Besides that, these gestures are also a good indication for her that you care about her, she can rely on you and you are the man in the house. It gives you the right power dynamic, where she can be a little bit submissive to you in life and in bed.
Step 3: How to make her horny and want you badly
If you have done everything I said earlier to set her in the right mood and make her feel comfortable, then you can move into this stage.
Build up anticipation
Once in a while, you can send her surprise sexy messages during her work time or when she is away. Basically, you just need to tell her what you want to do to her. For example, you want to push her to the wall, and start kissing her lips and body, etc. Just say out what imagination you have for her. And, if you do not know what to say, here are some dirty talks you can use.
Licking and kissing
You want to start by smelling her neck or the side of her face (near her ear) first. Then, slowly move to her lips and kiss them. Use your tongue to gently touch hers. And, enjoy the kissing process. Gradually increase the intensity of the kiss.
Run your hands over her body
Hold her by the waist, and then slowly wrap her in your arms with one hand, and use another hand to touch her butt. You can then slowly move to the other areas if she does not stop you and continues the kissing. Play with her hair a few times, stop and look at her for a few seconds, and continue the kiss. This strategic pause can make her want more from you.
Undressing her
When you do this, try to make sure she is fully lying down or she is standing. This will make the process of undressing her pants easier, compared to the sitting position. You want to move your hand to her back and start to undo her bra. Give her a good breast massage after to turn her on further. You should focus on the side of her breast first, and then slowly play with her nipples. Use your finger to continue to tease her.
Foreplay and dirty talk
Spend some time in the foreplay phase, you can start by licking her private part, and start to tell her what are you going to do to her later, and how much you need her. All of these will raise the sexual intensity. Then after some time, you can start and give her the best oral sex she ever had. Focus on her pleasure in the early phase, and the following sex will be more amazing. While you doing all these, remember to let the light be dimmed and the make-out music continues to run.
Step 4: How to make sex enjoyable for her
If she enjoys the love-making process with you, then it will be much easier for you to initiate a new one next time. So, make sure she is having a great time with you. You can start this by communication.
Ask her what is her favorite position
Follow her lead and do her favorite position. Then, you can command her to try out the position you like. The key here is to learn different new positions and try it out together with her. It makes the process more interesting and stimulating for both of you.
Try role-play
Ask her what sexual fantasies she has, and play along with her. If she doesn’t have any, then you can tell her what’s yours and let her play along with you. I’m sure you would have some ideas of your own, but if you don’t, then just use some of the classic ones like nurse and patient, teacher and student.
Ask her if she wants to be dominant this time
Tell her that she can ride you the way she wants, and you can follow her lead to try out different positions that she wants. Let her be in charge and this will help her to unleash her wildness and make her feel that making love is a process in which she can be highly involved in it, and her opinion is often respected and valued.
After-play is the key
Don’t just wash up and fall into sleep right away. After the process, give her a hug and kiss her affectionately. This signals to her that all the hugs and affection earlier were not just to get her in bed. Again, this will avoid her having the feeling of being used.
It’s best if you can chat with her, and appreciate all the little things she brought to you in life. Give her a genuine compliment and let her know how amazing you are.
This will wrap up the whole thing perfectly and leave a very good impression in her mind that making love is enjoyable and wonderful. So, next time when you try to initiate the whole process again, things will be much easier.
Additional things you can do to make your wife hornier
Do not stop after you got her in bed for once. you should continue to do the following things to make her feel loved and want you all the time.
Continue to date her
You should continue to date her and bring her to different places even after you get married. Continuing to create more great and new experiences together is extremely crucial to keep the spark in a relationship. So, take note when there’s a new restaurant or bar opening up in town, and take her there for a surprise. She will adore you more and wants to keep you forever. When she feels loved, she would be the one who wants to kiss and hug you and have your attention all the time. Would it be easier for you to move from kissing to bed action easier that way? I bet it’s a definite yes.
Try new hobbies together
Go for a dancing class, drawing class, or anything that both of you wanted to try but never had the courage or motivation to do alone. Again, it is about inviting novelty into life and creating more wonderful memories together. The more connected you are with her, the easier you are to initiate the intimate process with her.
Deal with relationship issues first
If there’s a relationship issue between you two, it is best to discuss it openly in an objective way. This is because if the issue keeps occupying her mind, and she is unhappy with you, chances are she is much less willing to make love with you. First, fix the relationship, and then only think about how to get her in bed. Try to stand in her shoes, understand her standpoint, apologize if you made a mistake, and give her a hug will often melt her heart and have her be willing to open up with you again. Once again, prioritize making your wife feel loved, and have a healthy relationship, and intimacy is a natural thing that will come after.
Seek professional medical advice
If your wife seems to have a low sex drive no matter what you do, it could be due to imbalanced hormones or mental/health issues. If it is ruining your relationship, then the best way is to communicate about it openly and suggest consulting an expert together. In case she refuses to seek medical advice, then at least you should get a marriage counselor or family counselor to help you to deal with the relationship problem. An expert can help you to get the point across in a more objective manner and can help both of you to communicate efficiently to solve the issue together.
Take great care of yourself
Make sure you still keep fit, take care of hygiene, and dress nicely even after you are married. Also, having your own social circle and passion will help you to keep your attractiveness and charisma. Keep your wife attracted and it would be easier for you to see her horny for you.
A Word From Charismatic Persona
Relationships and intimacy are just like sales. If there’s no good mood and experience in place, and you just want to force her into bed with no after-play, do you think it’s going to be an enjoyable process for her? Will she want that again next time? Probably not. So, you have to focus on enhancing the whole experience and leave a good impression on her that making love is wonderful and it will be much easier for you to call for it again next time.