Welcome to my ultimate guide on how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend.
You will discover the direct and indirect approaches to asking a girl to be your girlfriend.
In addition to that, you will also learn what you can say to make her your girlfriend.
Without further ado, let’s begin.
before asking Her to be your girlfriend.
Before I dive into the details, let me ask you a question.
Should you ask a girl to become your girlfriend in the first place? I mean, should you tell her something like “I like you, do you want to become my girlfriend?”
If you ask the girls about this, most of them will tell you, yes, you should ask the girl you like to be your girlfriend.
On the other hand, if you ask those guys who are really good with girls, most of them will tell you not to confess anything. This is because once you confess, you will lose the initiative and the girl will have all the power to determine the outcome. It is not you who is in power anymore. In a nutshell, you put yourself in a very passive position.
As you can see, different people have different opinions on this. In my opinion, you should only confess when 2 conditions are met.
You Should Only Confess If:
- Condition No.1: She is obviously into you.
- Condition No.2: You should confess only when it is the next logical thing to do for the relationship.
Must Know Before Asking A Girl To Be Your Girlfriend
Most guys fail because they pay too much attention to the confession part.
They treat love confession as the ultimate way to make a girl become his girlfriend. They think that once they confess to the girl, the girl will feel touched, she will like them back and agree to become their girlfriend.
But, that’s wrong thinking.
If the girl does not even know you are interested in her or she is not into you yet, making a love confession is like digging your own grave. She will reject you because she will be shock and not ready for that. So, she will say no to escape from the situation.
Love confession is not betting. You want to make sure the timing is right, and you are in the correct stage where it is logical and natural to confess before you do it.
With that being said, you should spend all your energy and resources to attract her and make her like you first. Only then she will say yes to your love confession.
Guys, I’m telling you this not to discourage you but to make sure you are doing the right thing at the right stage.
How To Ask A Girl To Become Your Girlfriend
Alright, there are 2 ways to ask a girl to become your girlfriend. They are the direct approach and indirect approach.
The direct way is also the traditional way to ask the girl to become your girlfriend right away.
For example, you look at her and ask, “can you be my girlfriend?”
This way, you either get a yes or a no. It is very straight forward.
The power is in her hand, and she gets to decide if she wants to be with you. Of course, the chances of success depend on how much she is already interested in you.
If you are not sure if she is into you and use the direct approach, it can be very risky. Today I want to share the indirect method below, which I think is better for most of you.
In general, I think the indirect approach is a better approach for most guys.
The indirect approach I’m going to share with you does not have any specific objective, and it is an incomplete love confession. Let me give you some examples below, so you will have more clarity.
Direct Approach with a complete confession:
“Can you become my girlfriend?”
Indirect Approach with the incomplete confession:
“Jessica, we have been seeing each other for a while, and I really enjoy the time spent together with you.”
Please note that the incomplete confession above does not have the second part. It does not have the sentence, “can you become my girlfriend.” It merely expresses that you enjoy spending time with her. This is an indirect way of telling the girl you like her, but you didn’t confess anything.
Once you say this, you must keep quiet. The silence pressure will be on her, and she will give you a response. Then, based on the response, you can know what to do next.
If it is a positive response, you can then confess and ask her to be your girlfriend.
If the response is negative, you know that she won’t say yes even if you confess. In that case, you should not proceed with a confession.
If the response is ambiguous. She does not express what she thinks about you, then you should not confess either. You can test the water temperature again to find out what she feels about you.
So, here’s what you can do to learn how she feels about you. You want to use the template ” because of (fill in a reason), so we can’t be together.”
For example: “Jessica, we have been seeing each other for a while, and I really enjoy the time spent together with you. But because we live in a different city, I think it is hard for us to be together for now.”
Guys, you have to understand you are not really rejecting her. This is just a test for her.
There are only 2 responses you will get.
The first response is that she says, “it’s nothing. It’s okay”. If she is not interested in continuing the topic, then it means that she is not into you. But it’s okay because you didn’t really confess anything. The good thing is that you know where you are right now. And, you know you still need to put more effort into attracting her.
On the other hand, if the girl appears to be defending with reasons, then it means she is into you. For example, after you say because you both live in a different city, it is hard for both of you to be together, she replies no, she does not think that is a problem. If she tries to convince you that it is not a problem, then you know she is into you. Otherwise, she won’t bother to talk about it.
If you get a positive signal, then the choice is in your hand now.
You can choose to confess directly and ask her to be your girlfriend.
Or, you can choose to wait for 1 or 2 weeks, then you can say, “I know that I said distance is a problem in the past, but if I were to ask you again, would you be my girlfriend, will you say yes?” Since she is interested in you already, she will probably say yes.
As you can see, with the indirect method above, you can make an incomplete confession first to check what her response is. If her response is positive, you can then ask her to become your girlfriend. Otherwise, you want to build up the intimacy level and make her to like you first. Then, you can try it again next time when she is interested in you.
It is not that hard to know if a girl likes you or not. If she likes you, you can ask her out quickly, and you can flirt with her occasionally, and she won’t reject it.
You can first flirt by words, and if everything is okay, you can move to flirt with body language. If she does not back off or she actually flirts back, then it is an obvious sign she is into you. Then, you can confess any time you want.
Make Love Confession At The Right Timing
A lot of guys fail because they do not test the water temperature first.
They are excited. They want the girl they like to become their girlfriend as soon as possible, so they just confess.
If the timing is right and the girl likes them too, then it’s excellent. They get the girl. But if it’s not, then they will get rejection.
What we want here is to avoid getting a rejection too early in a relationship. Because once you get rejected, the relationship can turn awkward. It will be more challenging for you to get closer to her and get a yes again in the future. So, make sure she likes you first before you make the love confession—no need to rush it.
Here’s the thing, bro. If she is really into you, you do not even need to ask her anything and she can become your girlfriend.
If you still want to do it, asking her to be your girlfriend can be very straightforward. Just say, “I really like you, will you be my girlfriend?” And, it will work because she likes you already.
3 Tips On How To Ask A Girl To Be Your Girlfriend
1) What To Say To Make Her Your Girlfriend
You need to make sure she is interested in you before you ask her to become your girlfriend. If that is already the case, then you can use the following script.
- I have been thinking a lot about this lately. I have never felt this way before, but I think I really like you. Would you like to be my girlfriend?
- I’m not sure why, but I just keep thinking about your day and night lately. I think I’m totally into you. Will you be my girlfriend?
- I’m nervous, and I do not know where to start. But, I just want you to know that I really like you a lot. Will you be my girlfriend?
2) How To Ask A Girl To Be Your Girlfriend over text.
Now, I highly recommend you ask a girl to be your girlfriend in person during a date. If it is a long-distance relationship, or it is hard for both of you to frequently see each other, you can use the following script.
- It’s so hard to keep this inside of me. I just want you to know that I like you very much. Will you be my girlfriend?
- I really wish I could see you right now, give you a hug and tell you that…I really like you a lot. Will you be my special one?
- I see you even when I close my eyes. I don’t know what else to say besides… I like you very much. Will you be my girlfriend?
3) When To Ask A Girl To Be Your Girlfriend
You can ask her to be your girlfriend after you both have been dating for a while. Ask her when you both are in a private space where there are no distractions around. I would suggest you do it at your home, a place where you can be confident and relax.
The Bottom Line
Love confession is not a bet. Telling a girl that you like her will not automatically make her to like you back and agree to become your girlfriend. So, you want to always put in the effort to make her like you first, then only ask her to become your girlfriend.
Guys, I wish you all the best in your love confession. I really hope you will be able to get the girl you like to become your girlfriend. I know it can be super nervous. But, no worries, remember to use the method I have just shared with you above, and I wish you good luck.